A bride to be in Ghana, Mzznaki Tetteh, had the shock of her life when a photo she posted online of herself and her prospective groom drew the ire of the commenting public.
The comments on her posts, all concentrating on her weight, and mostly condemning/judging her for it, were as ugly as one could envision, drawing out the worst in the crowd.
Mzznaki is, to be fair, a substantial woman, to say the least. The photo, in a way, was riffing on the weight difference between the two of them in a playful way- how that is anyone else’s business is the matter for contention here.
After suffering considerable shaming for her size from commenters, she shared another photo, admirably standing up to all the hateful trolls.
“Still confident…your rubbish comments ain’t ruining my happiness…thanks to all for the compliments and best wishes…am honoured.” She captioned a photo she shared on Instagram.
The only man whose opinion matters in this instance, which is actually the one getting to marry the girl, told Starrfm that he has no problems with his bride-to-be. According to him, whilst he certainly didn’t expect the huge negative reaction, he couldn’t care one whit.
“To me, I have always been a fan of plus size women and I am so proud of my woman and I don’t care about what anybody says out there.” he said.
“In every society there are people who will try to discourage you from things that you seek to do but I am not bothered at all. And I don’t regret posting those pictures on Facebook,” he added.
We as a people, frankly, have this tendency of exhibiting a visceral reaction to things that we disapprove of, and we often go in with disgusting, and quite judge-y comments. For a country full of supposed Christians, we tend to judge people a lot.
And whilst making judgements of people’s positions and ideas is all well and great, the problem is that our attacks are often at people’s biological traits they possess, or ideological positions we disagree with. So same-sex people are lynched just for being who they are, and apparently plus sized brides are shamed from hell to high water.
A lot of these kinds of attacks are personal and bigoted, and promote no ideal whatsoever. And what those kinds of attacks do is that, it reduces everyone to a stereotype. So when we find out someone is part of a certain bloc, we make terrible assumptions about them, without knowing practically nothing about them. All those attacking Mzznaki knew little about her apart from the fact that she was plus sized, and somehow that equalled her being the devil’s incarnate. Gays, atheists, whatever class of ‘outcasts’ you can think of in Ghana, they suffer the same bigotry.
The best battles are fought over ideas, and attacking people for simply being who they are- that is just plain wrong.