Cut the Crap | Why Don’t Men Want You to Kiss Them Right After S*cking Their Shyt?


embarrassed young brunette covering her mouth with both hands

I have experienced this 3 times with 3 different guys and even though I have always wondered what the problem is, it’s what happened this weekend which really got me upset—to the extent that I am writing about it today.

As a woman, I wouldn’t want to be putting my fingers in my thing and then lick them like some damn lollipop but I am reasonable enough not to stop a guy from kissing me, right after he has been down there. It’s called being understanding and not making the other feel he did something gross when you probably enjoyed it, asked him for it or wanted it.

The truth is, the man who spends hours down there (I can take a hell lot of time to get to dreamland) does not necessary get anything from doing so—except to make me happy and perhaps enjoy me ‘moan’ like a damn cat.

With this in mind, why don’t men realize women do not necessary get anything when we spend time ‘BJing’ them down there—except to hurt our jaws and increase the width of our mouths? Some senseless ones even try to burst your throat…

As mentioned above, on 3 previous occasions I have tried to kiss men who pulled their mouths away after expressly asking for me to go down there —and it didn’t bother me that much to complain because I was ready to get some.  After all, the kissing wasn’t what I truly needed at that time.

But it was pretty off putting to want to kiss someone when it’s all getting interesting and the person starts playing smart with his mouth simply because your mouth just arrived from down there, something he really enjoyed.

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Another reason why I was not much bothered about these 3 occurrences as compared to last weekend’s happening is the fact that I voluntarily decide to make things more exciting by going on my knees, though they guarded my head and enjoyed my splendid mouth work. It was like I asked for something; I got it and I had to bear the following reaction or consequence.

But what happened last weekend was nothing like the above. He asked and beg that I should give him that head and after resisting (because it was in a car), I decided to do it under the condition that he should not spray anything into my mouth—which meant he had to alert me or turn to the other side when he was ready to shoot.

And then he threw it all straight into my throat and even wanted me to drink it as though I had just landed myself my favourite condensed milk. Of course I was not going to do that so I opened the car’s door and threw it all out on the floor. I know it’s disgusting but what could a sister do? The earlier that ‘shyt’ left my mouth, the better…

Now, few seconds after throwing it out, I leaned towards him to kiss him and he loudly said NO. Before going that mile, we had been kissing so it was obvious why he was saying No but I decided to ask. And he looked straight into my eyes to say; ‘ You just went down on me and I don’t wanna taste my own stuff’. REALLY?

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So you don’t want to taste your own stuff but you dropped them all in my mouth—though I didn’t really want to do that all, you begged and ‘compelled’ me to do it. Now it’s absolutely disgusting for you to kiss me even though I have thrown it all out? You didn’t consider it disgusting when you had me down there and when you dropped them in my mouth—despite having warned you not…right? ‘Cut the crap’ I said and then I walked out of that car, feeling used and completely disrespected.

It seems I am not the only woman who has experienced this with men. I shared my story with a friend and she jumped to say; ‘that is why I don’t even bother with giving head unless he is already doing similar to me.”

Even if we did it to each other, like I started, I wouldn’t turn his head away for wanting to kiss me after using his tongue down there but I am damn sure he would have said No to me kissing him—making it seem, a man’s mouth is more precious than that of a woman…

For that man, he wouldn’t ever get me to go on my knees again and I don’t think I will ever do that for any again—that is, if I will be treated like a disgusting woman, right after. The fact that four men have behaved this way is enough for me to want to stay away from that ‘fun club’.

Anyway, what has your experience been?


Joe says:

Mike, I don’t like your comment. It’s not good to brand people who express themselves as adults. Besides, this is not where one posts professionalism. Sex is a very enjoyable experience if you get the right partner. It’s unfortunate the writer might have not met the right partners as Bushmeat indicated. But the fact that your previous experiences were disappointing does not mean your next will follow suit. I pray that one day you’ll meet the right guy, and you will forever remain happy when it comes to sex.

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AkosuaGhana says:

Great piece. This is why I don’t do MEN. They are selfish and greedy creatures who treats the other person inferior when it comes to sex. The moment they are satisfied, they care less about the other. Good luck next time lol

Bushmeat says:

Akosua, I don’t know how many MEN you’ve been with, you seem to be unlucky with the ones u ended up with, believe me not all men are what u think they are.

Hmmm says:

Ashawo. AShawo. Burn in hell

Bushmeat says:

Well Cynthia, it’s obvious u found urself a selfish man for the fourth time, am sorry for ur experience, I hope u find a better bloke next time and he treats u better than those jerks 🙂